I'm a rookie at this actually. I've done a few, but no means an expert. This was last summer, so don't recall specifics, but I know .007-.012 range is good.
As for backlash, tight is fine, but if you are fighting it, shoot for the middle and call it good. Working those side rings can be challenging to get super accurate. A little nudge goes a long way. You are trying to set the side bearing preload while this is going on also. I recall a buddy many years ago, setting the rings so that the ring gear had NO lash. Then using one side, crank on the ring to increase backlash. When you get your .010, the side bearing preload would be in range. I've never checked, but never had bearing problems either.
Roll the ring gear against the pinion(put drag on the pinion) and feel the sensation. Like I mention, any "buzz" to it will indicate something is not right and will cause a noise when driving. If it rolls smooth, then it is good and will be quiet. Running it with a drill worked really well for me. Get an socket adapter for your drill, that is what I have.