In stop and go traffic the engine isn’t making any power, so really not generating a lot of heat, although if your initial timing is a little low it can heat things a little bit
What is happening is you are losing airflow under the car and into the radiator, which is why they get warm, both help cooling air flow
If you cannot add fan volume with speed or fan size, you could try to add a couple degrees initial, and/or you could try a 160 thermostat, but as I said I think it’s airflow
Been there with mine too