I can understand your reasoning because in general "like dissolves like". However, I've never seen silicone dielectric grease hurt any kind of rubber. I use it on all spark plug boots, brake slide pin boots, intake plenum gaskets, and anywhere else I want to stop rubber from drying out.
For suspension bushings, I can understand products like fluid film, brake fluid, and diesel fuel softening suspension bushings but not engine oil...that's kinda weird.
I learned (almost the hard way) that diesel fuel is bad for coolant lines. Volkswagen ran a coolant line under the lift pump on my wife's diesel car. The lift pumped leaked just enough to turn the coolant line into mush. You'd think they'd see that coming. I rerouted the new coolant line.