My angle of attack is to get the geometry right first, before measuring for pushrod length or worrying about where the adjuster is.
The geometry on a shaft mounted rocker is set by moving the stands up (shimming) or down (milling). You move the stands up or down to establish the correct pattern and geometry on the valve stem. You're aiming for a narrow pattern near the center of the valve stem. I would consider a narrow pattern to be .040-.060" wide. If the pattern is wide and toward the intake side of the stem, then the stands need to be raised. If it's wide and toward the header side of the stem, then the stands will need to be milled. Most of the time, I'm shimming up Harland Sharp rockers.
Once that is done, then you set the adjuster so that it's as tight up to the rocker body as the pushrod cup and oil hole will let you get. If the adjuster is long then you end up with the adjuster being a moment arm, and more importantly, you get lots of "wiggle" movement of the pushrod cup during the valve open/close period. That wiggle translates to less lift at the valve. If the adjuster is too short, then you'll get the pushrod cup up into the lifter body, where you will have contact or failure.
After all that is established, I measure for pushrod length and then add .050-.060" for hydraulic lifter preload.
If it's a ball end adjuster on the rocker arm, then you will need a ball/cup style pushrod. When you measure, put a ball bearing or similar into the cup, then use calipers to measure the OAL, then subtract the diameter of the ball bearing. This is called the "bottom of cup" measurement and it's a standard for measuring ball/cup pushrods.