Several thoughts come to mind.
First, the NASCAR engines that come out of Roush's shop use rockers made of aluminum. They are made 'in-house'.
Second, as Barry mentions, you have, in an FE rocker arm made of aluminum, the same sort of assembly as you have with a wrist-pin in a piston. I can't remember ever seeing a piston with bushed wrist-pin holes, to say nothing of having to go to needle bearings there.
Third, you might call Dove regarding upgrading to the wider rockers. You DO seem to be running enough spring pressure that it might be worthwhile. I'd try pointing out to the Dove folks that you have had two failures in a thousand miles.
Fourth, again as Barry points out, there are simply design parameters inherent in aluminum rockers that are completely divorced from the manufacturing source. There's simply just so much room available between the shaft and the adjuster and there must be clearance for the cup on the push-rod, etc.
KS