Same here. I sell pushrods as part of my cam/lifter packages, but I don't ship unless I get a confirmed pushrod length with some tutorial on how to optimize it and check it.
There's more than one way to skin a cat, but I have never really been a mid-lift theory guy. To me, I'm looking for as narrow of a pattern as I can get, which is backed up by the least amount of valve lift loss that I can get. As long as it's generally near the center of the valve stem, I'm good. The old wives' tale, "It has to be dead centered on the valve tip" doesn't float here.
I do agree that even a rocker arm swap will totally jack things up for you though. I was building a 460 inch Clevor and spent an hour getting the geometry right with a Comp Cams Ultra Gold 1.73 ratio rocker. Those rockers are pretty large and beefy and I soon realized that after I had spent time squaring up the top end that I was going to have pushrod contact. I switched to a 1.73 RR Comp XD rocker which allowed a lot more room for the pushrod, but I never could get the same pattern that I got with the first set of rockers, even after spending another hour on it.
I also use a lot of "new" factory non-adjustable rockers and it seems like I always have to shim up the stands with the valves that I use in my heads.