A lot of your higher end rods use CMD. I keep a big tube of it here. There's another lubricant that I can't remember the name of, but it's almost like a robin-egg blue color. Whatever it is, I've used it a few times and it gives good results as well and it feels similar to the CMD.
Yes, you want the fastener's head to turn easily, not the washer to turn on the surface of the part.
As long as we're adding tips, some of the ARP washers have chamfers on one side. The chamfer always goes up toward the head of the bolt.